And here’s where it becomes very interesting: When you experience that instant/very quick attraction, what follows after is the discovery phase, where you hopefully get to know them in reality.Love scammers pretend to be looking for love, engage the affection of their possible victims by using photos from the internet to present a gorgeous view of themselves.He already stuck his neck out once, and you summarily chopped it off. Second, when you don’t show up, to avoid cognitive dissonance, you will unconsciously start disliking this man who was plenty appealing earlier.
He cancels plans, he goes MIA for days at a time, he acts distant.
At the root of it, the same sense of insecurity that made the guy obsessed with finding out if you like him is now scaring him into thinking that you’re going to “take his freedom away.” Generally speaking, most guys have a fear of being “trapped” in a relationship, but in this particular scenario you’re dealing with a guy who’s actions are especially dictated by avoiding unpleasant situations as a primary motivator.
These very same people will protest that they ‘can’t’ go on a date with someone and will find it unlikely that their attraction and interest will grow, if they don’t feel it immediately.
For them, attraction, love, chemistry and the whole kit and caboodle have a foundation in something of nothing. What you don’t realise if you’re relying on ‘instant’ or very quick attraction, is that you’re saying that you can be attracted to and even fall in love with someone that you don’t know, but that you couldn’t become attracted to and fall in love with someone that you grew to know. You can fall in love with the promise, but you couldn’t fall for the reality?
You fire off an email to them or if they’ve already made contact with you, you eagerly reply, feeling excited at possibly meeting just the type of person you’re looking for.
Out in the real world, you go on first dates and if you don’t feel a ‘spark’ and a ‘connection’, are immediately or by the end of the date, mentally saying “Sayonara” and bracing yourself to continue your quest.Now while you might start getting really excited by this prospect, this particular guy has probably gotten freaked out.At this point, he’s afraid that everything he said in the beginning has led you to believe that you guys are a couple and he starts acting in a way that shows you this is not the case.It's sometimes difficult to know the exact time you were born - try asking relatives, if there is no way of knowing you should select sunrise hrs (6am); the closer you are to your time of birth will make your reading more precise!My role as an astrologer is to map out the heavens and translate what the planets are saying about your destiny.As your personal astrologer, I can help you to make a big difference in your life in 2016.