A “great” one won’t come your way unless you’re willing to pass on the ones that are merely “good.”So this is a simple plea: demand strong feelings from your relationship. Have the courage to believe that something better is out there.Demand awe and inspiration–not all the time, but at least with some regularity. (Hell, I think you might even be able to know sooner than that, but I’m trying to be reasonable here.)And I know some people take issue with this, saying they were dating three years (or more) before they truly fell in love, and now they’ve been together 40 years now, blah, blah, blah. But what happens a lot more often is people who are in limbo for years simply get married because they feel they can’t “waste” the 5 years they’ve been together by splitting up now, and instead go on to waste ten more miserable years together being in an incompatible relationship they don’t have the courage to get out of.So the question is: is marrying very, very quickly "a thing" in Mormonism?
The reason why more people aren’t ending up in wildly enthusiastic relationships is simply due to one thing: they’re not getting out of bad relationships soon enough.
They stay in something “ok” for months and even years on end, preferring the safety of mediocrity to the angst of loneliness.
If you had told me a year ago I was going to be engaged and moving to the other side of the country, I would have LOL'd in your face.
I had already executed an exhausting move* from Brooklyn to Nashville, and I thought I was done with change for a very long time.
Be someone who brings as much to the table as you expect from them.
If you want someone who lives passionately, has an interesting, fulfilling career, has tons of hobbies, fills the room with their personality and inspires other through their actions, then you need to be that kind of person, too. We settle for mediocrity in ourselves and yet expect to end up with Leonardo Di Caprio or Keira Knightley.
Here, nine couples reveal how long they waited and why.
Five months: "We were in love and wanted to start the rest of our lives together.
Anon Regular Lurker One girl I dated, after the 2nd date, asked me when we were getting engaged....
This was at Utah Valley Community College, which is what it was called when I went there.
" And each of these threads seems to be a freaking competition to see who married the fastest.